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Episode 37 - 3 Reasons Why You're Not Achieving Your Goals

In today’s episode, we’re going to talk about 3 reasons why you’re not achieving your goals. 

 

Find the Full Notes to this episode at RecoveringCorpoholics.com/37.

 

If you’re ready to achieve big things but are having trouble finding the time to do so, you’re not alone. 

 

According to Forbes, when asking Leaders if they successfully completed their goals for the day, the majority of them responded with “I have no idea”. 

 

(I believe) There are three main obstacles that keep us from achieving our goals. 

 

First, that we aren’t clear or are realistic on what your goals actually are. Second, that we just can’t find the time to work on them (there's just so many fire drills these days!). And third, that we actually have too many goals (and we don’t know where to focus). 

 

So how do we solve those three obstacles so you can start achieving your goals today?

 

Keep Listening. 

 

You aren’t clear / realistic on what your goals are

The first obstacle I want to talk about is not being clear or realistic about what your goals actually are. 

 

Sometimes we have no idea what we want to achieve, we just have things we want to do (aka we are not clear on what we want).  

 

For example, I have the goal to record an episode of my podcast each week. However, that is not a goal. That is an action step for a goal. The goal here would be to gain more attention, become a thought leader, use it to later write a book, etc. 

 

But I didn’t put that together until one day I stepped back and thought to myself, why am I taking up so much of my time for my podcast. I’m not someone famous and don’t have a big following so is it even worth my time?

 

And when I had a lot of things to do, I would choose doing that vs my podcast. But now I am clear on what I am trying to do! I want to use this for my clients and eventually put it together for a book. And now I make time for my podcast!

 

And for being realistic, I believe you should dream big, for more info on that, go listen to episode 26. But you also need to be realistic with how big your goal is and how much time you have to achieve it. 

 

Saying you want to win a fitness competition in a month when you haven’t worked out in years may not be the best. But 3, 6 months or a year, that's definitely doable! Set yourself up for success.

 

So to avoid this obstacle, here are some of the other things you can do:

 

For every goal or dream you have, ask yourself: “Why do I want to achieve this”?

 

And if you don’t know, start thinking of the big win you want to achieve for that year. Think about why that is important to you and how it’s going to benefit you? On the opposite spectrum, you can also think of what the risk is for not achieving your goal. 

 

And don’t skip this! I know there is a lot to get done and you want (and like) to get stuff done. But being clear on what you’re trying to achieve is going to make you feel way more accomplished than if you didn’t. 


You can’t find the time to work on them 

The second obstacle on why you’re not achieving your goals is that you just can’t seem to find the time to work on them. 

 

Life is crazy these days and there is so much to do. From all the things we need to get done at home to work to everything in between, we can be spread thin. 

 

However, if you aren’t working on your dreams, you’re working on someone else’s. Yes, you are doing more at work because your goal is to get promoted, but you could think that every email you get is someone asking you for help to achieve their goals. 

 

If you had a real emergency or something you couldn’t miss, you would stop everything you’re doing for that. But when it comes to ourselves and our goals, we can just get lost in what needs to ‘get done’.

 

And sometimes, we are actually just making excuses for ourselves because our goals aren’t motivating us, they aren’t important or that we just don’t know where to begin. 

 

Let me give you two examples.

 

First, I know I will keep doing other things on my to-do list when I just don’t know what I need to do for my goal or I don’t know what my goals are or I don’t see the value of doing it; so I just “avoid” it. 

 

And for goals not being motivating: I know for myself, if I have a goal to lose weight, sometimes I just want to keep doing more work because I really don’t want to run. 

 

Because in reality, I don’t really want to lose weight. I already am in great shape; I’m just comparing myself to models and thinking I need to look better.

 

Side note and quick tip, if I rephrase my goal to something meaningful or important to me, it will be so much easier to achieve. Instead of losing weight, my goal could be to increase my heart health so I can live longer for my kids. Now that will get me up!

 

So what can you do to overcome this and find the time?

 

To start, instead of using “I don’t have the time”, replace that with “I’m not making the time”. 

 

When you say “I don’t have the time”, you are closing your mind off to the possibility of even finding time. But when you say, “I’m not making the time”, it allows you the opportunity to think ‘Why’ you’re not actually doing something and how you can start doing something. 

 

If it’s something important to you, then you find the time. And if it’s not important, why are you even doing it in the first place? All you are doing is stressing yourself out to achieve something you don’t want and then feeling bad when you don’t actually work towards it. 

 

If you really want to set yourself up for success, you’ll set clear goals that you actually think are important and meaningful and make a plan on how and when you will achieve them. Because without that, your goal is just a wish. 

 

So take the guesswork out of goals and take the time to figure out what it is that you actually want to do. AND MAKE YOUR PLAN HOW SO YOU DONT HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT ANYTHING OTHER THAN DOING WHAT YOU SAID YOU WERE GOING TO DO. 

 

You have too many goals (and we don’t know where to focus)

And the third obstacle on why you’re not achieving your goals is that you have too many. 

 

Research shows that having 1 to 2 goals will allow you to better focus your efforts and actually drive you to achieve what you want. 

 

Just think, if you have debt on multiple accounts, do you pay all of them a little bit or do you focus on paying one or two off at a time? 

 

Maybe not the best example for my non-finance listeners out there, but if you try to pay off all your debt, you may never make a dent in your debt! But by paying them off one by one, this will allow you to actually get rid of some of those accounts. 

 

And that is how you should approach your goals. 

 

Even if you’re really driven and have so much you want to achieve, prioritizing which goals you want to focus on is key. 

 

And if every goal is equally important, then see if any of your goals overlap so you can hit two birds with one stone (complementary goals). 

 

But the most important thing here for you to do is be realistic with your time. Can you really get everything done? If so, how and when? Again, as I’ve mentioned before, you want to set yourself up for success. 

 

If you can plan it all out, then great! But only you know your schedule and what you’re capable of achieving. 

That’s all I have for this week. Again, stay tuned for next week’s episode where I go into more detail on formulating your perfect goal.

 

Stay Inspired and Live Powerfully,

Felicia

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